[I]n our human desire to search for a quick fix to our problems, it is often easier to take someone else's personal guidelines and treat them as the solution rather than examine our own sinful hearts. And far too often this turns into legalism as we intentionally or unintentionally impose those restrictions on others. Singled Out: Why Celibacy Must Be Reinvented in Today's Church , Christine A. Colon & Bonnie E. Field, Brazos Press. 2009, pg. 102.