A few years ago, I borrowed a book on courtship. I don't like criticizing something that tries to be well meaning, but the more I read, the greater my concerns over the attitudes in the book. The author drives home the point on impurity (extent not specified) by comparing a person to used goods. Basically the argument is, "You've already been used. Who would want that?" Therefore, stay pure or else. This was so not the gospel that I had my Matt Chandler moment . Inside I was yelling, "Jesus wants the rose!" and nearly chucked the book across the room, but didn't since it was borrowed. I whole-heartedly agree with fleeing youthful lusts and abstaining from sexual immorality, but this can easily turn into phariseeism. We can become proud and complacent because we're doing it right . Also how different is this from the prosperity gospel when the simplistic logic is: stay pure = happy Christian marriage, impurity = divorce or difficult marriage...