Is It My Fault?: Hope and Healing for Those Suffering Domestic Violence , Justin S. Holcomb & Lindsey A. Holcomb, Moody Publishers, May 2014, 240 pages. Domestic violence (DV) is a difficult subject and one that is often misunderstood. Consequently, victims may not realize that what is happening to them is abuse . Also well-intentioned but uninformed counsel may re-victimize those already hurting. Is It My Fault? brings this topic to light for the victim and those who would help her. To give a brief overview, this book is divided into three sections: Part 1 - What is Domestic Violence? - This section lays the groundwork by defining DV and its extent. Contrary to what many may think, abuse is not just physical. Neither is it a relational issue but one of control. [21] Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive, controlling, or abusive behavior that is used by one individual to gain or maintain power and control over another individual in the context of an ...