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Kaleoscope: When vows are broken

I'm honored to share this post at Kaleoscope. This was written with prayer and tears because it strikes close to home. 

"Do you promise to love, to cherish, to honor, to obey, forsaking all others, in sickness as well as in health, in adversity as well as in prosperity, for better or for worse, and to cleave only to him/her so long as you both shall live?"

These are beautiful words, but they convey more than sentiment. This a solemn promise of commitment to one person for the rest of your life. While this vow does not mean there will be no struggles, this promise includes working together through the difficulties, holding fast, and seeking the good of one another no matter the circumstances.

These vows are positive promises to do something. To love, cherish and honor... However, if you look at the flip side, these vows are promises to not do as well. Do you promise to not demean, to not forsake, and to not abuse? Do you promise to not abandon your spouse physically or emotionally? Do you promise to not pursue another person instead of your spouse? These nots are not explicitly stated but implied because they are the antithesis of what the marriage covenant should be.

I don't think anyone goes into marriage, especially a professing Christian, with the intent to break these vows. This was certainly never God's intent...

Read the rest here

For additional reading, I recommend the following posts by Pastor Sam Powell that are pertinent to the issue of divorce for abandonment, abuse, and adultery.

On Unconditional Covenants
"Christians" who revile
The Secret Things of God

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